Fate Doesn’t ask you what you want,
Fate knows what’s Best.
We all live each day in a different manner. Some end up being happy, sad, excited, surprised and so on. The basis of our lives and the various outcomes are dependent on the choices that we make in our life.Now, it is very obvious that most of the times these choices that we make to control our lives in a desired way are made in our complete authority and without coercion.
The outcomes, whatever they may be are fully accepted by us. I have a question for you, there is no right answer to that question. There has always been a tussle between the two beliefs. The two lines of thought are:
1. I am a result of the choices I have made in the Past.
2. I am a result of the things that happened to me in the past, irrespective of my choices.
I will elaborate concept of fate further..
The second one is a bit tricky to understand, simply because it some-what violates out natural instinct to CONTROL everything. That’s a fact, isn’t it?
We humans love to control everything and when we realize that something cannot be controlled we either try to destroy it or try to neglect it as baseless. Quite recently there have been major studies in science that point to the fact that not ALL our choices are consciously made by us.
Many philosophers of the past have given it many names like Fate, Destiny etc. This concept is difficult to understand in the west simply because it negates our control over things. In the east this is taught as a life lesson, something which must be accepted as a given. Now I am not advocating which is better, both paths have their own benefits and drawbacks.
When you come to believe that you can control everything, you would end up being extremely frustrated and dissatisfied with everything that is not happening according to your desire.
This is a very natural state of being which would eventually adversely affect the overall well-being of your mind and body. Also if you just leave things on FATE and not do anything, even then it is a problem because in that case no inventions and discoveries would have been possible!!
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But when you try to maintain a balance between the two, you would achieve PEACE. When you know that some things are not under your control and that you can just LET GO, you will definitely feel your mind coming to a state of peace and tranquility.
The Buddhist have a very well-defined concept of Fate.
They believe that no matter what choices you make in your life, you would always end up where you should be.
This is a self-explanatory theory which has no scope for further probing. When one tries to analyze it, you will find that in believing that you are where you should be, there is a strong sense of calm. Many sages during the times have pointed to this concept in their own ways.
The idea which I am trying to put forth is that If one realizes that we need to take life as it comes and not try to control it in any manner, it would make things easier.