Why is Introversion a bad thing?
Introverts need to get this message through, and its about time !! Let’s admit it, the entire world is basically designed for extroverts. Right from an early age we are told that we should go out and interact with others, for good intentions am sure, to be
outspoken, and as we grow up we are made to believe that these are the traits of a leader. Everyone wants to be a leader, no?
There are many such skills we are made to learn;
1. Learn networking in the business circle to “ succeed” and grow in your business.
2. Be a team player.
3. Don’t be alone, go out and “ socialize”
When you think about it, we are all subconsciously programmed to be extroverts in life, because these skills are related to success, fame and money all of which would supposedly direct us to lead a comfortable life. Our parents, teachers, guides, mentors, coaches and almost everyone around us is always programming us in that manner.
This is not evident to a person who has a natural inclination towards those traits, and because of that they pick up on them very quickly. I am going to talk about the other half which finds it very hard to understand them in the first place, following them is a
different ball game altogether.
I do not wish to downplay the extroverts here, they have an excellent personality but so do Introverts. People have a very common perception that Introverts and most of them are false. Some of them I have listed below;
1. They are shy.
2. Introverts hate being around people.
3. Introverts cannot be good leaders.
4. They are bad team players.
5. Introverts talk less.
6. Introverts are always more creative and intellectual.
7. They are terrified of public speaking.
8. They are less happier as compared to extroverts.
The list goes on and on..
It is a fact proved by psychology that there are many personality types present and this fact is independent of the person being an introvert or an extrovert. Dr. Jung had created 16 types of personality to which an individual can belong to, you can test yourself here.
Introverts have many good qualities hidden deep within their inner being..
On a general basis, Introverts have an extensive thinking capability and they tend to analyze the everyday activities a lot. This makes them excellent observers and subsequent decision makers. Since they pay more attention to gathering more information, they are much more equipped to take well-informed decisions.
They value one on one conversations more, this allows them to nurture long-term relationships. Since they tend to observe, it is easier for them to understand the underlying tone of the person in front of them. This has a direct co-relation on their reply, which is tailored to fit the situation. They are able to gauge what the person is asking for whether it is sympathy, empathy, a solution or just a listening ear. Some one might feel that this would take up a lot of mind-space of a person, but in the case of introverts they actually love to do this because it fuels their own need to have a meaningful conversation.
“Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy
parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were
home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social
energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen
more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if
they express themselves better in writing than in conversation.
They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but
enjoy deep discussions.” Susan Cain
Most Introverts are extremely independent people, since they do not desire or crave the social bonding or attention (they do not despise it either). The availability or unavailability of the presence of other people is irrelevant to an introvert because most of the time they are immersed in their own thoughts. However, just like any other individual they do desire a good company. But it is not a necessity.
Retrospection, which is believed to be a very good quality to possess comes easily to them. Being self-reflective allows them to correct their mistakes and this nature is extended to the work they do. The point which I am trying to make is that all individuals possess particular skills which make them unique and the people should not be divided into categories. The stereotypes which
surround introverts should be removed to look beyond them, into the person concerned. Irrespective of being an extrovert or an introvert, you can attain whatever you wish in your life.
Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your
own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside,
awakes” C.G. Jung